Navigating “The 7 Cs of Parenting”: 6) Coping
Children who learn how to cope with issues effectively are more likely to cope better with the stress of everyday life. Challenges and conflicts are easier to overcome when a child is resilient and able to protect themselves against the unsafe, worrisome behaviors of others.
Resilient children have a wide range of positive coping strategies that help them navigate the tough decisions and situations they face in our complicated society. They understand the difference between a real crisis and something that just feels important. They have learned to develop positive, effective coping strategies by watching their parents cope in a positive and safe way. Parents who role model problem-solving step by step are teaching their children how to resolve problems proactively, rather than react to problems emotionally.
If you guide your children to develop positive, effective coping strategies, they will be able to use them to alleviate pain and stress rather than engage in negative behaviors. Remember to make fair, wise decisions, especially when you are under pressure, so you can model self-control to your child. The example you set is the probably the example they will follow. Children learn what they live.
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To be continued…
NOTE: In “Fostering Resilience,” The authors name the seven qualities of highly resilient youth. The 7 Cs of parenting were adapted from The Positive Youth Development movement. Rick Little and his colleagues at the International Youth Foundation over the course of their research founded “The 7 Cs: The essential Building Blocks of Resilience For Parents.”