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The 7 C's of Resilience

Navigating “The 7 Cs of Parenting”: Conclusion

Navigating the 7 Cs of parenting, you can help your child become competent and confident.  They will build social connections needed for them to develop a strong character while they make positive contributions to society.  They will learn that they are valuable.  They learn that their decisions and actions are important, because they affect everyone around them. Children who know how to cope with the challenges and changes in life not only make good role models, they are the builders of our future society.  They have control of their own destinies, and they show others a better way to conduct themselves.  Their resilience is exemplary. This is the final article in our 9-part series on the 7 Cs of Resilience. Make sure to check out our other posts if you missed any of the steps. You'll learn what the Cs are, and how to encourage your child along each path ...
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The 7 C's of Resilience

Navigating “The 7 Cs of Parenting”: 7) Control

When children realize they are responsible for the outcome of their actions, they are likely to look at their choices and options more carefully and follow each one of them to the logical and final concision. This helps them to make healthy choices, where they can control the outcome of their own actions and decisions. When parents control all of their children's decisions, they deny their children the opportunity to learn self control. These children may feel like everything happens to them, and they can become passive and pessimistic. These children are inclined to become depressed because they see "control" as being an external factor, and they don't feel they have any control. On the other hand, resilient children internalize their decisions and know they have control over what happens to them.  These children know that the quality of their lives directly depends on the actions and decisions they make.  ...
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The 7 C's of Resilience

Navigating “The 7 Cs of Parenting”: 6) Coping

Children who learn how to cope with issues effectively are more likely to cope better with the stress of everyday life. Challenges and conflicts are easier to overcome when a child is resilient and able to protect themselves against the unsafe, worrisome behaviors of others. Resilient children have a wide range of positive coping strategies that help them navigate the tough decisions and situations they face in our complicated society.  They understand the difference between a real crisis and something that just feels important. They have learned to develop positive, effective coping strategies by watching their parents cope in a positive and safe way.  Parents who role model problem-solving step by step are teaching their children how to resolve problems proactively, rather than react to problems emotionally. If you guide your children to develop positive, effective coping strategies, they will be able to use them to alleviate pain and stress ...
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The 7 C's of Resilience

Navigating “The 7 Cs of Parenting”: 5) Contribution

When children contribute, they gain a sense of purpose. This teaches them one of the most powerful lessons a child can learn:  The world is a better place because they are in it. This inspires them to take actions and make choices that improve the world they live in. This builds their sense of confidence and strengthens their character. Parents who teach the importance of serving others, help their children build social contacts and security. These children then can build relationships with other adults who serve as role models,  as they watch these people contribute to their communities. One Step at a Time: Make it clear to your children that they can do things that improve the world. Receiving a "thank you" for a job well done reinforces a child's contributions to their community.  Congratulate your child when they accomplish something or complete a task well. Positive contributions to society ...
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The 7 C's of Resilience

Navigating “The 7 Cs of Parenting”: 4) Character

Children who have confidence in themselves have a sense of self-worth, so they are comfortable with themselves and their values. They are likely to "stick to their guns" when they are faced with challenges to their values and lifestyle choices.  They tend to show a caring and compassionate attitude toward others. When your child makes a mistake, remind them that they are capable and are doing well.  We all make mistakes; it's part of being human. Encourage your child to strive just a little bit more and let them know they can succeed. Remember to "catch" your child doing something good, kind, helpful, compassionate or generous.  If you see the best in your child, your child can see the best in themselves.  Let your child know that you expect the best qualities from them:  fairness, integrity, persistence and kindness. Parents can help a child develop character by recognizing what their ...
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